Self-hypnosis and its benefits

Self-hypnosis may be considered as the best way to relax and control stress. Self-hypnosis can be done at work, at home or any place you just need minutes to do it, it’s easy and you can learn it fast:

Choose a comfortable place such as lying on the bed for 10min away from any external influences.

Close your eyes and focus on relaxing your whole body from head to foot. Start with your feet and fingers and say “relax” many times till you feel the relaxation in all of your muscles. When you feel the relaxation in your feet keep focusing to move the relaxation to each place in your body.

Now move your concentration to your leg muscle, knees, belly, chest and back.

Feel the pleasure when the stress goes out of your body, breath slowly and deep till you feel completely relaxed.

After completing these steps on your whole body, do it all again but this time faster than the first time.

After you reach the top of the relaxation process, move your thoughts far away from all the routine you are living in, and suggest a wish that you can make after you wake up, say to yourself that you will make it successfully and that you will love your life and your family and friends and that you will forgive them if they have done something wrong, just tell yourself things that you want to do after you wake up.

Relaxing your mind and body will make you maintain your physical and mental health, and self-hypnosis will make you focus more and get rid of stress.

Good luck

8 Tips to deal with naughty children

It may seem hard for parents to deal with naughty children, especially if it is their first child and he is stubborn, reckless and do not listen to what you are saying. You can’t just take it easy and let your child act badly. In this article I’ll give you 8 tips to deal with your naughty child.

Do not scream in the face of your child, never!! Screaming instills fear in his mind, and later in his life he will face problems such as fear, a lack of self confidence and self esteem and other mental problems.

Talk with your child! Try to solve problems by talking face to face, in a decent and respectable way. Try to understand your child mentality and talk with him in a way that he understands you, and always make sure to be logical so that you can convince him, and never try to scream.

Talk with your child while you are sitting on your knees, so that you can be small as him, and make sure to look in his eyes while talking. Because if you talked with him when you are not sitting he will be afraid.

Don’t make your children afraid of you, a lot of parents tell their children stories about bogyman “ if you didn’t do this bogyman will eat you” and then when the child do the thing and bogyman don’t “eat” him he will never trust your stories again.

Don’t lie, for example you are going about and you tell your child that you will be back within 2 hours while you are planning to spend the whole evening out. Children trust their parents blindly so try to keep this trust so that he can respect you.

Keep your voice low when you are talking with your child, and also be serious so that he can take you serious.

Try the naughty chair to punish your child, this chair is a place where your child will sit without any kind of fun, he sits in it for 10min when he does something wrong .

Finally give a gift to your child if he does something good or if he stop doing something wrong.

Good luck

Self-discipline your way to success

Self-discipline is the first characteristic of successful people, without discipline one cannot make any success in his life. Self discipline is simply the power to control yourself and your desires, for example you are in a party and the next day you have to wake up early here in this situation you have to decide either to stay in the party and enjoy it at its moment or to leave the party to go and sleep so that you can wake up early and ready to work to gain success;

The first enemy of self discipline is boredom; we all know that success needs hard work, and hard work needs discipline and sometimes it gets boring. Here you have to work with “love what you do to do what you love” in mind, so that you can complete the job and success. A lot of people failed because they could not handle boredom, they start a project but after a period of time they get bored and let go, and start a new project… bear in mind that every work you do have 2 sides the fun side and the boring side, and you should handle them both to success…

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5 Great strategies for success

The daily practice of the power hour: a lot of experts have talked about this practice, and its concept is to challenge yourself to do something, for example to challenge yourself to exercise for 20min, 20min to read a book, 20min to yoga, 20min to play with the dog and 20min do something else, it made 1 hour that you do something good in each day.

Think on a paper: take a paper and write your problems or goals and then try to find a solution to each one and of course you have to focus while you are doing so.

Write the things that you will do tomorrow in a paper: every night before you sleep write 6 things that you want to do the following day. In the morning take a look at the paper and let it in your packet. This will help you to do all the work you want to make without forgetting it.

Make your car a moving university: in your car put CDs that contain audio lessons.

Mind storming to solve your problems: the idea here is that if you are facing a problem you should sit alone in a calm place then write the problem in a paper, and thinks of 20 solutions within 30min, at the end chose the best solution.

 Good luck

How to make youself happy

Have you ever thought about discovering a way to make yourself happy? Maybe you did, but sometimes bad thoughts controls us and we forget to be happy. Happiness is a process it is not a state so you are always in the search of happiness, for example the thing that will make me happy is to get a job, then I will enjoy happiness for a moment, and I will think that I will find happiness when I get married, you get my point! But you can bring some happiness to your life by these little steps.

First step: listen to the music you enjoy; now while I’m writing this article I am enjoying a song that literary make me fly. Music creates a magical thing inside of you, it can make you fly and enjoy every moment in your life, because somehow it talks to you… so don’t forget to enjoy the music.

Second step: enjoy the nature; if you ever feel sad or unhappy go to the sea enjoy its color and the fresh air, if you are sad from something cry and you will find your sadness goes with your tears. Go to the green spaces just don’t stay at home.

Third step: enjoy dark chocolate; every one now knows that dark chocolate make you happy, especially for women, so go and buy some dark chocolate and enjoy it.

Forth step: laugh as much as you can, you don’t necessary need a reason to laugh, just do it and get the hell out of the boring mood you are in, bring old images of you and your friends and laugh (I personally do it all the time).

These are just few things out of a lot of things you can do to be happy, don’t wait someone to come and make you happy, you are good enough to do it by your own! Good luck.

5 things to avoid in your life

Successful people usually follow healthy habits in their lives, and tend to have more control over their feelings, thoughts and reactions. Today I’m going to show 5 things to avoid so that you can achieve success in your life:

• Waste time blaming yourself and others

The past is over, and you have a future that you can do incredible things in! Blaming yourself for things you’ve done in the past will not give you a better future, working hard will! So follow your dreams and hope for the best.

• Give others authority to control you

Don’t let others decide how your life should be; because they simply put you in a mental prison that limits your abilities, I personally think that if you are stick to what others want you to do you will never find out how creative you can be.

• Being afraid of change

In the process of living you will definitely change so many times, either because of your personal will or because of the things around you, so always be positive toward change and try to live with it.

• Trying to satisfy everybody

If you tried to do so you will lose yourself in the process, because it is impossible to satisfy everyone, and if you were good enough and succeeded in this you will surely not satisfy your own self.

• Give up after failing

Even the most successful people in the planet have once failed, but they successes because they didn’t give up, they kept trying and trying till they got the results that they wanted. For me failing is the best possible way to learn.

And one last thing don’t forget to live and love, love yourself and the others life is short so try to enjoy each and every moment… Good luck

Plan to change your personality

     

     In order to be successful in life there is a plan to change your personality; Contrary to some beliefs there is not a failure or a successful person! There is a person with potentials and ability to success and work hard; and there is a person who has the same abilities but he does not work hard to achieve success. If you are the second kind, I will show you how to change your personality to become stronger.

First: work on these things…

Work on your personality so that you have a strong will, an ardent passion, great characteristics, excellent morals and successful habits. Try to have a healthy way of thinking and a mature character, and then your life will become calm. Always thing of happy things, because if you did so you will be happy and get a happy life! You can’t change the universe, but you can change the way you think and live.

Second: mechanisms of change…

Your personality consists from a group of behaviors; these behaviors are either good or bad, so if you want to success in life you have to change, and if you want to get rid of your bad habits that consists a bad personality which causes you to fell weak and powerless in front of yourself and in front of others, you have to change, for example some people says: “I will stop smoking when I’m 35” and others says: “I will start a diet next month, so I can enjoy food now” this way these people mess a chance to start now and not tomorrow.

If you want to change you should start from now, without canceling it till tomorrow…

Enjoy your life… Good luck!!!

How to get rid of the bad memories

Sometimes we go through bad moments that we do not want to remember, but we discover that we didn’t forget and the bad memories are still engraved in our minds, this usually happen when we see a picture, listen to a song or when we see a person that our memories are related to. In this article I will give you some steps that will help you to get rid of these memories.

Try to answer this question: “why didn’t I forget about this” may be because it didn’t finish, and you are not ready to turn on the page and start again? If it is so try to let go, life is short and we are torture ourselves with things from the past. I know that it is not as easy as this, but believe someone who wasted a lot of time in sadness, life goes on!! And everything has an end, so enjoy your life and let go of the past.

Try to know why you are remembering these bad memories? Is it a picture, song or something else? If you know the answers try to get rid of that thing.

If it is a bad memory try to remove anything related to it from your life, and this may be the hardest part, but you have to let go of the past and move on…

Good luck

How to face the most embarrassing moments…

Awkwardness is one of the strongest and fiercest emotions that anybody can face. And the more people see an embarrassing action from you, the more embarrassed you will be. Here are the most common situations and how to deal with it.

• A joke that nobody laugh for:

When everybody is listening and you say a joke, but nobody have laugh because they still waiting you to say something funny. In this situation you should be quick, react fast and don’t take it personally, but try to make it funnier and it is recommended to say something like “the next will be funnier” or something like so, but don’t try to change the topic or to quite.

• Saying inappropriate thing in an offensive way:

Imagine that you are in a restaurant to have lunch with your work friends, and that your boss is with you, knowing that you do not know anything about her, then she gets anxious because a man enters to the restaurant, and she tell you that the man is her ex, and that her husband do not like her to talk with him, and you say “men do not like to be number 2 in a woman’s life” here you should apologies right away because of your words. Here when you apologies you will stop her from taking any negative reaction, also you will give this embarrassing situation an end!

• A person who make you look like an idiot:

You are in a café with your friends, then a girl that you like come and you wanted to talk with here, but she react negatively. Here try to return back to your friends with a big smile and try to laugh about it and share with them to avoid being the idiot.

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How to convince others with an idea

Convincing someone with your idea may seem a hard thing to do, especially if this idea concerns your future. As an example when you want to convince your father to give you money to start a project. In this article I’m going to give you some good techniques that will help you:

To convince others with an idea you should be very convinced with it first, because if you do not believe what you are saying, how can any other one believe you!

Also you have to be very careful when it comes to words because if you said some things that it is not clear the listener will be confused and of course he will not be convinced.

Try not to be offensive, because if you did so others will not be convinced even if your idea is perfect, so try to use your mind and be as calm as possible so that you can reach your goal and convince them.

Always give an introduction for your idea and then present your goal from it, and be logical 1+1=2 and reasonable.

Good luck…

How to break the boring routine

Despite of the psychological and healthy benefits provided by the routine, humans must sometimes break this routine, or it will be a boring thing and will reduce humans’ abilities of Production and creativity. Here are some great ideas that will help you to break the boring routine:

You can go to the park, and walk barefoot on the green grass, also try to share things you love for example chocolate with someone you love.

Have a relaxing bath once or twice a week, and listen to your favorite music, also try to cook new dishes and use natural herbs in your food.

Take a break from your cell phone in a period in the day to relax and enjoy silence, also you can try to get some sleep so that you can wake up full energy.

Buy flowers to yourself and add some colors to your house, also buy a new perfume and put it when you are feeling bored.

Buy new books and start reading and try to find a new habit for example panting.

Mistakes also have benefits…

Can life have a magical solution as the computer keyboard “Ctrl+z”, that allow as to retreat from our mistakes? Isn’t it good that human have the ability to erase the parts that we don’t want to see in our lives?

Actually these 2 questions are the worst questions that anyone can ask, even if we need to think about it, but it can make a chaos more than it can give us poise.

 The moments of confusion and weakness are the moment that increase our awareness, and enriches our understanding. Even the great people, you can notice there greatness in their weak moments or in their mistakes, the moment that changes their lives was usually a big mistake.

Even Edison, one of the greatest people in the history, the inventor of the electric lamp was always showing off his mistakes, this means that behind his mistakes there is always benefits, “I discovered 1000 of ways that does not make an electric lamp”.

Actually I thing that mistakes are our greatest teachers, we get hurt but in the same time we learn a lot, so I do not have any desire to erase my past mistakes, I will do more just to learn (kidding)

Enjoy your life… Good luck! 

Imagine what you want, and achieved what you imagine…

Imagination is everything; it’s the window from where you can see all the happy things you dreamed of. It is also the process of creating images in your brain, and this can be a success toll that human beings have through three effective ways:

• Imagination activates the creative powers that your unconscious mind possesses.

• Imagination keeps your mind focused by programming your mind to notice existing things that have not been noticed.

• Imagination attracts people, things, and the opportunities that you need to achieve your goal.

Scientists have discovered that when you do any activity in the real world, your mind will use the same process if you are just imagining these activities. In other words your mind does not recognize any difference between what you imagine and what you really do.

Scientists have discovered also that students who where imagining their activities before doing it have done it with 100% of accuracy, while the students who didn’t use their imaginations have only 55% of accuracy.

How does imagination help to improve your performance?

When you imagine that you have achieved your goals a kind of conflict in your unconscious mind between what you imagine and what you already live in, so your unconscious mind try to solve this conflict by making your own realty change to a new one where your goals start to appear.

Use your imagination to create a better reality…

Good luck

How to get rid of shyness

Shame is a psychiatric disorder makes human caving within himself, shame limits talents and potentials. Here we must distinguish between shyness and modesty, modesty means taking into account the feelings of others.

There is many reasons behind shame, it could be physical or psychological, here are some solutions that may help you:

Write on paper what you are going to do, then identify the reasons that make shy and stops you from doing it

Develop your communication skills, and try to be the first one to speak

Every day say hey to at least 5 strangers, and don’t forget to smile. Go out and ask for places even if you know where they are.

Trust yourself this is the most important thing to do, enjoy your life

Good luck…

Public speaking: how to speak in front of people

Death, illness and poverty we think that these things are the things that scare us the most. In a survey was conducted on more than 100 people in the USA death, illness and poverty were not on top of what they fear from, it actually was talking in public!

One of the 100 people was asked why he put public speaking the first at his fear list and death in the first place he answered that death is instantly, he will feel nothing, but when he will talk in front of the people he will die hundreds of times.

This problem is one of the biggest in our time; here are some solutions that may help you:

Remember that you are not alone and just like you are afraid, anyone in your place will be afraid to, so keep calm!

Trust yourself, and try this trick, imagine that all your audiences are wearing dirty clothes.

If you did a mistake, take it easy you are a human being. Also practice and practice and practice

These things will surly help you, but make sure you trust yourself…

Good luck

Anger management: how to control your anger

Anger is a momentary feeling; the problem is that when we are angry we don’t see it this way actually we can’t even see. You need only some will to get rid of it.

• Go away:

Even if it is hard, but if there is a thing or a person that angered you, and it is difficult to solve the problem with, it is better to go away and do something else till you are calm and can think with you mind.

• Deep breaths:

You may think that this solution will not help you, but the truth is it does! Just go to a place where you can be alone and close your eyes, take a deep breath from your nose for 30sec and let it out from your mouth. Anger boosts your heartbeat and your blood pressure, so when you take a deep breath you will calm down.

• Exercises:

Such as running, hit the boxing bag this will help you to get the negative energy out and will make your mood better

• Relaxation:

Try to do something that make you relax like reading, yoga or something that will help you to relax.

Good luck 

How to free your mind

The human mind can be a real prison, only if he chooses so. The only thing that we can change anytime is our thoughts, these thoughts that may be borders for you, that stops you from going out of it and limit your abilities and choices.

As an example when you visit a friend and he ask if you want to drink coffee or tea, this is a kind of limits because your mind will consider only 2 choices either coffee of tea not juice or water!

Also media plays a big role here, because somehow it shape our minds, sometimes we do not know anything about the country X and media starts to give you bad images that it want you to see and believe, this way your mind will not see any possible way to see this country X good, so automatically when you will see someone from the country X you will already have a bad image about him and you will treat him bad! Not because he is bad but because media has already shaped and limited your mind!

Also your studies, not everybody study what he wants, why?! Because when he wanted to choose what he is going to study, he find only limited stuff to study..

The thing here is that we should free our minds, erase the borders and limits, you have no idea how powerful you are! Humans have a lot of capacities that we do not use so why limit our minds?!! 

Good luck

How to empty your mind and preparing yourself for sleep

After a long day we imagine that we will sink in a deep sleep, but when one throw his body on the bed, all the thoughts come to his mind all the problems, the conversations and the actions start to come to the mind, in this case we can surly say good bye sleep…

The question is, is there a way to calm down our minds and get some sleep? Yes you can, here is some useful tips:

• Time management

Our bodies organize its self according to the movement of the sun its rise and set. And we destroy this by staying late at night and this minimize the body's production of melatonin (responsible of waking up and sleeping). That’s why we should control the hours that we sleep in and weak up to. For example wake up at 6am and sleep at 10pm.

• Stay away from the TV

Some believe that sleeping in front of the TV may provide some relax, and turn on a romantic movie. This is wrong it will only give you a bad headache, that’s why it is recommended to stop watching TV 30 min before sleeping, believe me this will give you a chance to think about yourself and fall in a deep sleep.

• Self talk

Buy a notebook and write in it just before you sleep, write all the things that disturb you, this will help you to fall in a deep sleep.

• Music

Calm music can stop the mind from thinking about unimportant things, and helps to sleep, calm music stimulation the right half of the brain which is responsible for the balance and calmness, unlike the loud music that stimulate the left half of the brain responsible of logic.

Good luck

Overcome laziness and start work in two steps

You want to complete a project, or want to start a work or finish it? Do you have goals that you want to reach but can’t start, and if you did you can’t complete the missions?! You want to complete a mission and reach your goals, then you find yourself doing something else?!!

 Researches have proved that 75% of us are facing this problem which affects our lives now and if we did not overcome it, it will affect also our future. It also has to do with our feelings, because when we decide to do something and we don’t we will feel guilt, depression or even anxiety.

To eliminate and overcome this problem, I’ll share with you two Practical ideas:

• Ask yourself “why I do not do what I should do”

There is always a reason that stops us from working, even if we usually don’t know it, but it exists anyway. Just like there is a factor that push us to work, there is the pull factor.

Try to answer this question; you don’t do the job because you expect failure? Because you find it boring? Bad mood? Or because of something else. This answer will show you the reason that stops you.

• Try to fix the things that stop you from working

For example if you find that the job you want to complete is boring, try to look at it from another perspective. If you think that you will fail, then ask yourself what is the worst thing that may happen? You will find that you can treat the problem easily and those negative thoughts will not even happen!

If you want really to do something and find yourself feeling lazy, find the reason that stop you, fix it, and look at it positively.

Good luck